Sender: Colleague
How to reply when a coworker says: "I didn't want to step on your toes, but I went ahead and fixed your code."
Pre-analyzed with ParseIntent. Below is the psychological read, the exact tactics used, and three tactical responses ranked by fit.
Colleague · Incoming message
“I didn't want to step on your toes, but I went ahead and fixed your code.”
Diagnosis
The sender is asserting dominance by taking action without prior consultation, then attempting to soften the impact with a polite but insincere opening. Their motivation is likely to demonstrate their competence and control, possibly due to a lack of trust in your work or a desire to move faster.
Emotional charge · medium
De-escalate
Thanks for the heads-up. What was the issue you found?
Hold the Line
I prefer to review my own code. Next time please discuss changes with me first.
Pivot
Best fitThanks for taking the initiative. Let's make sure we align on process for future changes.
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