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What to text back when your ex says « i was going through something back then »

Already decoded. Here's what they actually meant, the specific words doing the damage, and three replies ranked by what we'd send.

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i was going through something back then

Context instead of apologyPutting it in the past

What they actually meant

An explanation, not an apology, and the difference matters. Context can be true and still not undo what it cost you. Notice whether the word sorry ever shows up.

How loaded this is · not in your head

Replies you can send

Keep it calm

i know you were. it was hard for both of us

Hold your ground

We'd send this one

i believe you. it still hurt, and that's the part i needed you to say

Change the game

ok. what are you actually asking me for?

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